I met my first love at fourth grade. Some say it’s just a childhood crush but it’s the longest I’ve felt anything that strong for anybody. I decided to finally get over him during my last year of college.

I’ve dated one person during high school. It lasted for just a month.

I had my first real boyfriend last 2014 but we broke it off after six months.

Many people would probably say that I had commitment issues… or that I had very high standards. But is it really about commitment issues? Having the same faith, respecting each others’ values— was it really so much to ask?

I saw this post at Facebook this morning. It’s from a book “Reflections of a Man” by Mr. Amari Soul.

"Guard your time...Once you’ve determined that he’s wrong for you, don’t give him anymore of your time. It’s your time that he sees as the key to getting past your defenses. The more time you give him...the greater his chances. Without your time, he can’t get inside your head. If he can’t get inside your head, he can never break your heart.

"Remember, if you're giving all your time to the wrong man, you don't have any time for the right one. Don't block your blessing."

I have not read the book but these words sum up my view in entertaining men.

As an independent woman who worked so hard to prove myself, I believe that it is not healthy to stay with someone who continuously sees your flaws without acknowledging your finer points except when they’re trying to get in your pants. It’s also hard to be with a guy who throws money at you expecting that you’ll submit to his every whim and desire. As romantic as it may sound for some people, it’s hard to be with a guy who wants your whole world to revolve around him alone.

I’m not stupid to think that it’ll all be sunshine and rainbows. God made every people with value. I don’t have high standards but I know what my worth is as a woman and as a person. So for those women like me who are still single and are not planning to change anything anytime soon despite our age:

STAY SINGLE UNTIL SOMEONE ACTUALLY COMPLIMENTS YOUR LIFE IN A WAY THAT IT MAKES IT BETTER TO NOT BE SINGLE. IF NOT, IT’S NOT WORTH IT.

-- Anon.